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Courting Controversy; Trusting in Love

Normally on my blog the only really controversial subject I write about is my belief that Jesus is the only way to salvation. It is a subject I feel strongly about and feel led to share about.

There is another controversial subject that I have never written about here, but that has been on my mind a lot lately. In fact having this post rattle around in my head taking up space for the past month is a big part of the reason I took a month off from posting. I have wanted to avoid this subject because no matter how I approaches it, there is bound to be someone who takes offense and reads something into what I’ve written that was not what I intended. It is a subject that is typically “discussed” with sound bites and angry one-liners.

In the end, I’ve decided to write about this subject in terms of my own story as well as adding a bit of a book review in the mix. This controversial subject is abortion.

For much of my life I was strongly pro-choice. I even attended a NARAL rally with my sister in Portland, Oregon many years ago. I was (and still am) a strong proponent of a woman’s right to make decisions regarding her own body, and I believed that making sure a woman could have an abortion any time she chose to was the best way to protect that right.

But then something happened that changed my heart and mind on abortion. My son was five years old at the time and I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were thrilled because we had been trying to get pregnant with our second child for four years. We were so excited that we told everyone when I was only six-weeks along.

About a week later I started having some spotting so I went to see the nurse practitioner at my doctor’s office. She sent me for an ultrasound. I had never had an ultrasound before except when I was almost nine months along with my son, so I was not really prepared for what I saw. The ultrasound technician pointed out my little baby and his or her heartbeat on the monitor. The baby was very small, but the human shape and the beating heart were unmistakable.

Unfortunately, the ultrasound also revealed that my placenta was tearing away from the uterine wall. I was directed to go home and rest, and I hoped that it would heal and all would be okay. Two days later I had a miscarriage.

In my grief over the loss of this child I cried out to God, but I found comfort in the thought that someday I would meet my little baby in heaven. Suddenly I realized how hypocritical and illogical it was to mourn the loss of this child only seven weeks after his or her conception while simultaneously believing that to abort a child at the same stage of development involved only the mother’s body. I realized that what Dr. Seuss once said through the words of Horton the Elephant was true: “A person’s a person no matter how small.”

Several years later a friend loaned me a book titled Won by Love by Norma McCorvey. It is her autobiography as Jane Roe of Roe v. Wade. She tells the story of how she became the poster child for the pro-choice movement, worked in an abortion clinic, and was ultimately won over by love to the realization that abortion was not a right worth fighting for. Her story is heartbreaking and compelling. In her first-hand recounting of her time working in an abortion clinic, Norma exposes the truth that abortion clinics and doctors were more concerned about their bottom lines than about the health and care of women facing crisis. Her story is worth reading.

Then when my son was in the eighth grade he took a communications class in which he was required to prepare and present several speeches. When the persuasive speech assignment came up, he was randomly assigned the pro-life position on abortion. As he worked on his speech he shared with me the research that he had found in the school’s article database. The research showed that women who have an abortion with their first pregnancy are 30% to 40% more likely to suffer from depression, attempt to or successfully commit suicide, and to get breast cancer than women who brought their first pregnancy to term. I wondered if these risks are shared with women facing this choice by clinics like Planned Parenthood. Based on Norma McCorvey’s story I suspect that they are not.

When all is said and done, I find that I do not advocate for making abortion completely illegal. This would only lead to those who profit from this industry to go underground and abortion would become even more dangerous than it is.

What I do advocate is that when faced with a decision about what to do with an unplanned pregnancy, women should be given all the information necessary to make an informed and logical choice. They should not be led to believe that the only option is to abort their child, because adoption is also a viable option. They should be made aware of the fact that the child inside them is a living being with his or her own heartbeat. They should be informed that having an abortion increases their risk of depression, suicidal tendencies, and breast cancer by as much as 30% to 40%. They should be made aware that the child they are considering aborting may be destined to be a woman who also deserves the right to choose.

But all of the facts, statistics, and rhetoric in the world will never be enough to change a person’s position on this issue. My position was changed by love – by the love I felt for my lost child and the love of God. Norma McCorvey’s position was changed by the love of the folks at Operation Rescue that moved in next door to the abortion clinic she worked at and the love of God. Ultimately it is love that will win the day in the battle for the lives of unborn children who have no voice of their own.

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Beautiful Feet

If you watch the news or TV, or spend any amount of time on Facebook or reading blogs, or for that matter just leave your house in the morning, you are bound to encounter any number of controversial issues. There are people spouting their opinions on all sorts of issues, trying to convince others of their position. Many of these controversies involve what some argue is sinful behavior and others say is not.

I have opinions on most, if not all, of the controversial issues facing our society today. I could join the fray and spout my opinion about any one of them, or all of them, and try to convince others of my position. But generally, unless I am in a one-on-one conversation with someone, I choose not to expound on my opinion on some of the more controversial issues. That is primarily because my opinion on most of them is not a simple matter, but a complex set of beliefs based on my experiences and what God has done in my life. It is impossible from a bumper-sticker style quote or opinion to expect someone to really understand how I feel about an issue.

Interestingly, my opinion on and understanding of many of the controversial issues of our day have changed over time. I believe it is God who has changed the way I see things and understand the depth of the controversy surrounding the issues facing us. As C.S. Lewis wrote, “I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.”

And so I have decided to take a stand on just one thing: the truth that Jesus, and Jesus alone, is the saving grace of humanity. This is what God has called me to do — to preach the Gospel. He has not called me to preach about, against, or in favor of specific behaviors. He has called me to tell others that Jesus loves them so much that He was willing to die to be with them.

As the Scripture says, “Anyone who trusts in him [Jesus] will never be put to shame.” For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? And how can they preach unless they are sent? As it is written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!” Romans 10:11-15.

I want to have the beautiful feet of one who brings good news. And the love of Christ for sinners is good news, indeed! “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8. He died for you and for me. I’ve never heard better news in all my life.

So what of all those controversial issues and behaviors? That is for the Holy Spirit to deal with in the life of each believer. But first one must believe that they are a sinner in need of a Savior, and how will they ever understand that truth if those of us who believe spend all our time trying to do the work of the Holy Spirit? If we focus on controversial issues and behaviors, we make people feel like they have to agree with everything we do before they can be a Christian. But that is not what Jesus said. He hung out with sinners and then He changed them into His disciples. He didn’t say, “Change who you are and then you can follow me.” He simply called people to follow Him, and then as people are in His presence He does the rest.

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